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Thursday, October 27, 2011

you did it??:(:(then I will also have to do it!!

I love it!I do it! - passion.
You can do it!I can do it!-competitiveness.
You did it.i'll also  have to do it!-peer pressure.

Peer pressure is imaginary feeling of being pressed against the floor by your successful peers who are top on the ladder caused by the thought of being  on par with your friends group  no matter in what discipline they achieve ensued by stress and low self esteem.Most of  us,almost all except those rare real monks out there experience the effect peer pressure in their daily lives.Most  people be hypocrites to themselves dissembling this effect by the words passion and competition.This is where the problem starts.Peer pressure not necessarily leads to disaster..It has its own plus and minus.Its a plus when you join a group of geeks where you fight with them to get equal marks.In  companies peer pressure is often a tool used to get work done.Exalting one from a group of ten for their work might induce all the other nine to work.excellent tool to drain ppl.(now this is competition)and on the other hand when you being a geek join a set of  toss pot you will become one(peer pressure).

Teen peer pressure(PP) often a result of grade sheet(when our friend gets .01 higher GPA in the end semesters), love(where ppl are indirectly forced to have girl friends when their friend has one and try all tricks to get a girl friend and when all the efforts go vain they end up accepting any girl that comes their way later only to get the relation broken down and viceversa in girls),internships(when one of the friends gets an internship out of the whole group which had applied which leads to a unwanted low feeling-self experienced), accessories(for instance,when one of a your  swanky mates have a  hi five dress,costume,jewellery,gadget, or motor bike you will end up torturing your parents who already work their ass off to give you decent accessories and good education ) and fame(where one might be funny one and liked by all ppl and a friend of him trying all stuff to impress girls and  most often gets the name "lame guy."please take this info..trying too much won't help in this discipline..only being yourself can fetch you the name "cool guy").i know people who  join all entrance exam coaching classes just because their friends have joined it end up excelling in none..PP will never let you be single minded.You will start thinking what your friend does rather than what you want to do.

Parental PP-In addition to all the pressures we lay on ourselves our parents add another 1000 ATM pressure on our back only to get it broken not for flexing it. Just because they want to sound cool in their peer group by saying"my boy goes to singing and dancing classes","my girl gets a 9.5 GPA","my grandson is a grand master in chess" ,they force us to all classes on earth singing,dancing,skating,music,abacus,other languages ,later only to say"I joined you in all classes but you failed to shine in anything"(did we ask you??)

The only way out of this is to be clear of what one wants and to be resolute in not comparing oneself with your friends group.I know .This is more easy to say..But one can do  it with few months practice..Whenever you get low marks,whenever your rejected ,whenever your being called the lame one for being yourself, whenever you don't get a job you wanted, whenever you didn't get a university you wanted,whenever u didn't get the girl you wanted,whenever you didn't excel in some art just say"I'm unique..ill prove myself in a better way in a better place" to this way your being optimistic ,your not low and you break the concept of peer pressure.(might sound abstract.pls will work.)

Sunday, October 16, 2011

men-dominators??or push overs??

Our society  was once considered to be male dominated society and still prevalently considered so  though not in all fields but in certain fields ..Is it really so??Is 'dominate' the right word for the context or should it be replaced by the word push over.????

The statement men and women are equal is absurd.There are disparities between them.they have their strengths and disadvantages with women having most weakness for the time being.but when it comes to converting their weakness into advantages women have an upper hand ..This is where men are made push overs .this can be cited with few examples I observe in daily life
1.conversation (true conversation..not made up)

girl1 to a boy: study hard..only then will u be married
girl2: every one has to work hard to get married to a nice person.
girl1: not in the case of women..we ll get married any how to nice ppl father(another poor male) will take care.:)

another conversation between a girl and boy

girl:why did u shift to management and not ms??
boy:my path in biotech is obscure.i really dunno what to do
girl:yeah for boys biotech is a risk
boy:why alone for a boy..why not for a girl??
girl:because Ur going to depend on it for living..ill marry a rich person and settle and biotech wont be a risk for us girls.:)

Only then I got the reason behind the 3:1 ratio of girls to boys in our class.Girls are really clear.Men back in history who restricted studying and leading the family to men never foresaw these things to happen  to the 21st century men.The disadvantage of being a part of patriarch society was now converted into an added advantage by women.


women always consider themselves equal to men but not in all things.they consider them weaker than men in things like standing in the bus where they have reservation of a whole side in a bus where there are only two seats reserved for physically challenged and senior citizens.most often than not the senior citizens are deprived of their seats and the most sad part is that women end up sitting even on men's side(not reserved..but supposed to be men's side) converting it into a 'ladies special(men ordinary)'bus.running back time, women weren't allowed to sit in front of men..but now its the other way around though the reason cited is their weakness..

next comes the political reservation..women were given 33% reservation.we men cannot be complacent with the rest 67%  as its general quota and not reserved for men.33% reservation for women considering them the weaker sex as far as politics is concerned might not sound alarming but a time might come when women gain equal political powers and this 33% would be their weapon to dethrone men from politics.:):)

3.Last but not the least-the main reason for men being push over are certain flirting men who give into all the demands made by women..for example:our college male faculties who tend to show  a soft corner towards women.:)

Commonality in all the above three cases is the weapon women use"their weakness".We  good hearted men who help them overcome their weakness are made push overs and they women become the parasite in the relationship...Unlike the  noble men of the past who dug the grave for the future men by fighting for women rights there wont be any women fighting for male rights.. We should only do for ourselves.

why should male prove their superiority by working hard ,earning,and being the head of family.??why cant we be like male lions and let women do the work..??think think...!!:)this is no bad time to start being like men!! defiant to all tantalizing traps of women.long live male power!!!!

PS:this is  no offence to women.:):)

Monday, October 3, 2011


What are assessments?
Assessments are a set of rituals solemnized by the faculties of a college which happens for a period of one or two weeks every month to test one's patience in attending the classes they take ,ones ability to steno graph(jot down points they say in lightning speed),one's ability to lift weights(relating to size of the books),ones ability to be defiant to sleep(the previous night),one's ability to memorize all the thousand evanescent structures ,formulas,loops,protocols,and cycles (most often than not our memory fails us when it comes to memorizing structures and formulas),  one's ability to compete with others to borrow the last available book in the library and last but not the least ,  ones ability to write gibberish in certain subjects where answers would be two pages and its message not more than a line.

pre-assessment week:-

                       "I should start preparing at least today." 
these are the watch words of engineering and student fraternity everyday they get up from the bed after a  lazy day which would have  been spent by talking with friends,watching a match,watching a sitcom,reading a book, roaming on the streets,sleeping,texting, face booking,talking on the phone for hours together and all other non academic works.This is the week when  our mates will be rushing to the library searching for books and borrow them before others grab it and the copy place will see a never before seen sales hike during this week where students will be begging for their books to be copied first and the entire scenario will resemble a market with students coming out of the copy place wet with sweat..With all the goals  set for the day and  all materials for preparation  ready,the day ends by the following words
                      "I should start at least tomorrow". 
Overcoming all  attractive distractions they sit to study and with limited preparations they wobble into assessment week with an intention of super ceding the low marks they got in  the previous test cycle.

assessment week:-

A week during which the activity levels in face book reach unprecedented heights with many of them posting the status of how much they have read and the face book chat groups serve as the class room where doubts are cleared. Demand for people who have already finished preparation all of a sudden increases as they would be surrounded by people who ask  to teach them what they have read in the books with all these engineering book speaking  Greek and Latin literally and following them especially on the last day is an daunting task.To cut it short, its a week of sleepless nights,midnight coffee,late night calls,always active social networks and chat rooms ,with students slogging over a 5 kg book throughout the night and get into the exam hall looking dull,unshaven,with dilated eyes ,sleep deprived like well dressed zombies,where they are made to sit with a one metre spacing  with three invigilators in a hall not giving a least chance to copy.After all the hard tasks they are put into shouldn't the students be given this advantage of siting next to each other.cruel world!!And after all the barriers build by the faculties certain students go breaking the walls and manage to copy !!

post assessment :

On the last day of the assessment after the last test,the class would experience a mixed emotion with few bright faces indicating their good run in the test cycle and few dull faces (reason known).And there are always certain people who all wear a fake smile even though they dint perform well as if they never care but their hearts feeling the heat could be felt if observed carefully.
The most hard phase of the post assessment period is when the professors give out the answer sheets and things get worse when our parents find the answer sheets lying inside an old book .

After all the test cycles ,the practicals and end semester come hopping in  to further test the   resistivity of the students..exams get over ---->grades sheets come.

then asks a student :how important are these assessments and GPA in our Career ?  how much GPA does one require to get a placement in good university sir??
        faculty: all these assessments and GPA don't play a major role..its your projects,extensive research ideas, and several competitive exams such as GRE ,GMAT,IELTS,TOEFEL ,CAT, GATE which influence your career and you need interpersonal skills ,aptitude and leadership and extra curricular to fetch you a job.
        student:them why the heck are these assessments and exams kept if they are not gonna matter much?????????then why don't you teach us what is needed  rather than some vague stuff which is not gonna help us??

pls ppl..set our path right!!not with unwanted garbage..engineers are not super humanoid computers who can handle multiple tasks of doing good at college,at competitive exams,and at extra curriculum.